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Forgiving You...

11/9/2020

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1 John 1:9
"But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness."
 
We often hear the significance of forgiving others and though it may be a struggle eventually we find it is in our best interest to do so. Those unintentional offenses that cause irritation, ego bruising, even loss are dismissed as we understand and comprehend the intent was not necessarily malicious but more so out of pure ignorance. Jesus exercised this function of forgiveness on the cross. In response to the lack and immaturity of the people in his own suffering, discomfort, and distress he found the strength to outwardly petition the Lord to forgive the jeering hackling crowds. And though we are not dying a first-hand sacrificial death for the whole of humanity we are most certainly commanded to sacrifice every fleshly response and forgive as we are forgiven.

Forgiving those who use, abuse, and take advantage without regard for how their actions adversely affect others can increase the struggle to forgive. It seems almost justifiable to hold the memory and feelings associated with the offense especially if the culprit is someone in our inner circle or an authority over us. When the offender is fully aware of the anguish, hurt, and loss they have caused yet refuse to take accountability it can seem almost like betrayal to ones self to forgive. In these instances we have to put our relationship with God above real and legitimate emotions and allow our hearts to be overcome with God's compassion, choose to exercise the commandment to forgive, and stand solid on that decision.

However the most overlooked person that we often fail to consider forgiving resides with us the duration of this life! We cannot leave this person! We cannot forget this person! We cannot escape this person! This person is seemingly the most difficult to forgive! This person looks us in the mirror daily as this person is us!

The Word of God stresses the position an unforgiving heart puts us in and as believers are we truly willing to risk eternity without God binding ourselves to unforgiveness? We should apply that same pressure and concept when considering forgiving the woman in the mirror. We can accomplish this stance by separating the soul, that is the life God put into the dust to bring about animation, from the flesh, the actual dust! Getting in the mirror and recalling that it is the soul that cries out to the Lord from the deep and the flesh that is to yield under the authority of the Lord will help us separate and activate the forgiving process as it relates to ourselves. Are the desires of the flesh worth it? Are the wants of a deceived heart worth it? Are the thoughts of an adverse mind worth it? Surely not!! This is the position unforgiveness puts our entire beings in... That is a state of deception and adversities!

Even though forgiveness does not excuse any of us from the consequences of the decisions made, as we reap what we sow, it does free us from the bind of those decisions. Forgiveness allows us to see with renewed focus that God has already had the final say, not our condemnation, and his Word is forgiveness! Feel free to cross reference the Cross for reassurance! The Word became flesh in the form of Jesus for the sake of taking on our sins, even our sin against self, and for total forgiveness we simply have to come into agreement with that Word!

Some of the decisions we make out of sorts can have life altering ramifications and make us feel like a liability. It can be very discouraging when the consequences touch areas in life that were never even a consideration. In the aftermath we can see with complete clarity how one decision had the ability to create a domino effect and seemingly demote and limit our movement and mobility. Let us be encouraged nonetheless in the fact that nothing our decisions got us into is beyond the correction of a loving and concerned Father.
Taking responsibility does not mean condemn oneself! Exercising accountability does not equal obsessing over where we went wrong! When perceptions misrepresent reality it can lead into self absorption and create a stronghold of unforgiveness. The would of, could of, should of's are irrelevant in the backdrop of what actually transpired.
There is nothing we can do to change the past however we can start in our present awareness to heal from our past misconceptions, currently forgive ourselves, and reap future blessings by sowing prosperous seeds!! When pressure arises and temptation attempts to steal the gift of repentance remember a resisted enemy flees from the face of truth every time.
Redirection and reconstruction come with ease the more we study and comprehend the nature of a forgiving God. Whenever and wherever unforgiveness is exposed in our lives take it as an opportunity to relinquish control to, yield before, and obey the Lord we say we love! Extend yourself a little grace as immaturity is a given, knowing better and doing better are inevitable, and transformation is evident each time we forgive them, him, her, and the mirror!
 
Guest Blogger, Monique Lovett.                        

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14 Comments
Teresa Cooper
11/9/2020 12:17:00 pm

knowing better and doing better are inevitable, and transformation is evident each time we forgive them, him, her, and the mirror! My favorite quote from this 💜

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Monique Lovett
11/13/2020 05:13:24 pm

To God be the glory!! 💜

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Faye lovett link
11/9/2020 04:25:53 pm

I really loved the open honesty not just about others. But about self to. God teaches us to forgive all the time. Not just because we think some sins are worst than others. Because to him. A sin is a sin. And forgiveness is required in order to grow and prospher. I hope there is more to come!

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Monique Lovett
11/13/2020 05:12:08 pm

Faye Nicole we know the fight to forgive the woman in the mirror is one the Lord equipped us to overcome!! Let's keep going higher baby sister! I love and appreciate your time and remarks! ❤️

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Amy W
11/13/2020 07:21:08 am

Beautifully written, forgiveness is a gift that allows us to move forward and not be stuck obsessing over mistakes or wrongdoing. I love how the struggle to forgive is acknowledged as it it very hard and we are hardest on ourselves! This piece is very timely and not only references that forgiveness is not an excuse, there are consequences but I love how she says “forgive ourselves, and reap future blessings by sowing prosperous seeds”. Amen! This is something that I will definitely come back to as I know I will need a reminder!

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Monique Lovett
11/13/2020 05:09:11 pm

Amy all I can say is to God be the glory! Thank you for taking the time out to read and comment.

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Rashme Rafes
11/13/2020 07:40:59 am

Beautifully written and very relevant! It is true that when you have gone through things in life that it is very easy to become self absorbed and judgmental. It is a defense mechanism that ends up doing more harm than good! Forgiving yourself as well as others is so vital for your healing journey and self care. Thank you for the reminder to surrender all worries and troubles to Lord... All is well. God bless you!

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Monique Lovett
11/13/2020 05:07:38 pm

Rashme thank you for the encouragement!

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Cierra Payne
11/13/2020 12:35:25 pm

💜👸🏽💜

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Monique Lovett
11/13/2020 05:05:38 pm

❤️💪🏽✨

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Rashad
11/13/2020 05:58:08 pm

Well put! Forgiveness isn't for the other person but for us. We block our blessings when we have a heart of unforgiveness. Forgive and let God fight the battle 🙏🏾

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G.B. Johnson
11/13/2020 06:39:15 pm

To an amazingly strong black mother, daughter, sister, and friend, thank you! I am proud to call my sister, your words in this article that I could relate to, and the truths that you highlight in this article are on point and relevant to me and many of us women and men today. As women, we are the hardest on ourselves, and your reminder was and is needed daily. The devil wants to keep us trapped in a season of guilt, so we don't lead our children, especially our son, into the season God Promised.

Thank you for hearing the call and following through; we are here to break these horrible cycles and bring forth new life in Jesus's name!!!

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Tashia B
11/14/2020 05:06:35 am

Forgiveness is a choice that is active and intentional. We all have been wounded by people in life yet our Father commands us to forgive. There can be boundaries set because forgiveness doesn't mean forgotten, reconciled or rebuilt trust. Your writing reminds me to not hold on to what isn't serving me. May God continue to bless your so that toy may encourage others.

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Veronica
11/16/2020 06:57:35 am

🙌🏽❤👸🏾❤🙌🏽

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