It is that season. The days are longer. The flowers are blooming, and the temperature is finally warm. The holidays are over. The candy is finally off the shelves, and your favorite store has finally stopped playing Christmas music. Congratulations, you made it! As you finally sit down to enjoy a sip of tea, you look over and see a Christmas card from your college roommate.
Laila, your college roommate, is amazing with an amazing little family and a gorgeous not so little husband. The memories of the last time you two were together makes you smile right before it hits you. You are still single.
Yes, ma’am. Its that other “S” word. We have all been there, - fully dressed and stopped by the train less than two miles from the church in the most fabulously picked out fashion forward dress. You look GOOD! However, you are definitely going to be late. You reach for your cellphone and turn on church via live stream. You ask God, the rearview mirror, and your imagination, “How long is this train?” Finally, you make it to the church ten minutes later.
Whew – the men are still serving in the parking lot. You run past them as you desperately try to make it through the door before offering time. Maybe you can just grab a seat in the back row. No one will notice, right? Ironically, you are greeted with a hug at the door by your favorite usher as she gently guides you to your seat. You walk past the back row, past the middle aisle, and on to the third row. There you have it! It is like God himself walked in and reserved that one single seat in the middle of the third row just for you. Instantly, you see a spotlight from heaven on YOUR seat as you apologize to ever person you walk past – even the baby.
Oh, to be kept by Jesus. I have come a mighty long way. We, singles, are on quite the little journey. Singleness is a most precious time. The purest conversation can be had with Abba in the most secret of places, in exclusive intimacy, when walking in purpose as a single. Perhaps you will not get the opportunity to take the cute little pictures with the matching pajamas. You get something better! You get the epic selfie with the perfect filter to post on all your social media platforms! You have got that glow! Walking in purpose while seeking the kingdom of God first will leave you so fulfilled that external observers would start to wonder what it is or who it is that have you smiling from ear to ear.
Often, people assume that I’m married. Newsflash, boyfriend is not synonymous with husband. In addition, friends that are male in gender are not necessarily the boyfriend. Singleness is a gift from God. It remains a time when you can truly devote yourself to God. According to 1 Corinthians 7: 7-8, singleness is a time in which the single can embrace a uniquely personal relationship with God.
Women of God should be intentional in their wait on love and not fall victim to falling in love with the concept of love.
We are encouraged to be patient in our journey to love in Song of Solomon 8:4. Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. Patience must truly have her time to perform a perfect work! James 4: 4, speaks of being entire and wanting for nothing. We single lady’s deserve an entire man that will strive to love us while seeking the kingdom of God.
Remember, the wait is a gift. Rejoice in it!
Guest Blogger, Rochelle Greggs
Pastor Teresa actively travels throughout the country imparting the Word of God in a candid and refreshing way. Teresa is the host and creator of SisterFriends Cups and Conversations, an Internet Talk Show providing a platform for women to engage. www.newcreationfamilychurch.com to learn more.